One day, when I was little, my dad promised me something (I don’t remember what it was), but he didn’t fulfill his promise. I was so hurt. In my mind, if someone says they will do something, then they are obligated to do it. With tears in my eyes, my dad taught me a lesson that I didn’t begin to understand until recently. With a smile on his face, his explanation for his broken promise was: “A promise is a comfort to a fool.” My dad likes to joke around, but in that moment, I was not laughing. My childlike innocence caused me to not understand what he said, however, his experienced mind, taught me a much needed lesson. I know you’re probably thinking that after that moment, I never believed anyone’s promises, and have trust issues, but that’s not the case.
My dad was right.
Growing up, I never understood how someone could say something, and not do what they promised. It was so frustrating. I always try my hardest to be genuine, and own up to my words. However, I realized that, I too, have fallen short. What is it about us that causes broken promises, hurtful words, and just being fake? Don’t we dislike when this is done to us? So why would we do it to others?
There’s a common denominator.
In trying to understand this, I learned that we are humans. I’m sure, you’re well aware of that. However, as humans, we love deeply. It’s in our nature. We love, but sometimes we get hurt by individuals who also love deeply, but have been hurt deeply, too. This is no excuse, but it is very real. Some individuals are so guarded that they push others away, just so they don’t have to experience the pain they went through again. I get it. Why does this happen? I wish I could explain that, but I really can’t. Some people burry their issues, rather than addressing it, or are just scared of taking risks.
Hurt, broken promises, lies, and deceit, are all things that we have either experienced, know someone who has experienced it, or even done it ourself. Are we fools for believing promises, like the saying goes? Of course not! Each experience is a lesson that we learn and grow from. Never take it for granted. Honestly, it had purpose. A purpose that you might not understand now, or never understand, but it is part of your beautiful story.
God does not break promises.
“God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?” Numbers 23:9
Don’t lose faith in God. Maybe someone has caused you to lose faith in them, but God is faithful. He said in His word that He does not lie. Hold tight to what He has shared with you. If He said it, He will do it.
It’s time to have that childlike faith again.
Stop burying your problems and give them to God. By burying, I mean trying to forget your issues by making yourself busy with things of this world. You might not even realize it, but burying all of that only causes you to hurt yourself, and others. Instead, get in your word, worship, pray, and consume your time with the Lord. The enemy has a way of trying to make you think that because of what man has done to you, that you should lose faith in God. It’s a lie! You just can’t lose faith. But, don’t just take my word for it. Try it out. Trust God with that part of your heart that you have guarded off, or the anger and resentment you have been holding on to. Have that childlike innocence again, trust His promises, and see what happens.
Our hope is not in this world, and definitely not in man. But, when we put our hope in the Lord, our hearts and minds will change. It is then, that we will begin to love and be loved.
Be His Masterpiece.